{"id":563,"date":"2009-06-15T17:09:09","date_gmt":"2009-06-15T17:09:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cavendishbaptist.com\/church\/?p=563"},"modified":"2009-06-15T18:09:47","modified_gmt":"2009-06-15T18:09:47","slug":"questions-to-ponder-before-marrying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/cavendishbaptist.com\/church\/archives\/563","title":{"rendered":"Questions for Couples"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Some important questions to address, before and after your wedding, to help have a healthy marriage.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong><br \/>\nWhy are you getting married?<\/strong><br \/>\nHow will being married be different?\u00a0 Love, Money, Sex, Name, Sleep?<br \/>\nWhat do you as a couple want out of life?<br \/>\nHow do you see your marriage in 10, 20, 40, 60 years?<br \/>\nWhat are the situations that would call for counseling? Separation? Divorce?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Do you have a good marriage role model?<\/strong>\u00a0 Do you ask them questions?<br \/>\nWhat was your childhood like?<br \/>\nWas your family an affectionate one?<br \/>\nWhat will you do with your families during the holidays?<br \/>\nWhat values do you want to bring from your family into your marriage?<br \/>\nWhat habits do you not want to bring from your family into your marriage?<br \/>\nWhat do you like and dislike about your family?\u00a0 Your spouse\u2019s family?<\/p>\n<p><strong>What part does religion play in your life?<\/strong><br \/>\nHow does your faith manifest itself in your day-to-day?<br \/>\nDo you think faith and spirituality are important in a marriage?<br \/>\nWhat is your image of God?\u00a0 What is your spouse\u2019s image of God?<br \/>\nWhat do you think of your spouse\u2019s image of God?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Do you want to have children?<\/strong><br \/>\nHow many children do you want to have?<br \/>\nHow long should you be married before having children?<br \/>\nDo you want to be an authoritarian, authoritative, or permissive parent?<br \/>\nHow will you provide spiritual growth for your children?<br \/>\nHow will you provide for the material\/emotional needs of your children?<br \/>\nWill one of you stay home after you have children?<br \/>\nWhat type of birth control will you use to prevent or postpone parenthood?<br \/>\nHow do you feel about adoption?<br \/>\nAre there circumstances where you would want to abort a pregnancy?<\/p>\n<p><strong>How do you handle conflict?<\/strong><br \/>\nHow would you describe yourself?<br \/>\nHow would your spouse describe you?<br \/>\nHow will you make decisions?<br \/>\nIs there a set leader in your relationship?\u00a0 How is the leader determined?<br \/>\nWhat does leadership that you are willing to follow look like?<br \/>\nWhat does the support you need look like?<br \/>\nAre you both willing to deal with difficulties or do you try to avoid conflict?<br \/>\nAre you willing to work on your communication skills?<br \/>\nAre you ready to share intimately with each other?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Are you a spender or a saver when it comes to money?<\/strong><br \/>\nDo you want to have a budget?<br \/>\nAre you going to have joint bank accounts or separate or both?<br \/>\nWho is going to be responsible for making sure bills are paid on time?<br \/>\nWhat do you consider necessities? Luxuries?\u00a0<br \/>\nWhat are your financial goals?<br \/>\nHow was money handled or talked about while you were growing up?<\/p>\n<p><strong>What are your life goals?<\/strong><br \/>\nWould you like to achieve financial independence? By when?<br \/>\nWhat are your plans for retirement?<br \/>\nWould you like to buy a house? If so when?<br \/>\nWhat is your idea of the perfect career?<br \/>\nWould you ever want to be self-employed or start your own business?<br \/>\nDo you think that parents should pay for their children\u2019s educations?<br \/>\nDo you have funeral plans?<br \/>\nDo you want to be cremated or buried?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Some important questions to address, before and after your wedding, to help have a healthy marriage. Why are you getting married? How will being married be different?\u00a0 Love, Money, Sex, Name, Sleep? What do you as a couple want out of life? How do you see your marriage in 10, 20, 40, 60 years? 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